This is Heidi’s husband, Caleb. I guess you could call this a guest post. I was going through all things digital (pics, websites, backups, etc.) in the Weston household and I realized it’s been six months since Heidi last sent an update on her blog. I am by no means the writer Heidi is but I will do my best to fill you in Heidi’s journey.
After the cancer moved to Heidi’s brain and spine it became harder and harder for her to get online on a computer or even her smartphone. This was due mostly to the tumors affecting her vision, and in some part due to all the emotions she was grappling. That said she still kept pushing on to experience life as much as she could with the time she had. Back in June her doctor gave her a prognosis of 90-100 days if she did radiation and chemotherapy. One of the things her doctor pointedly said was “I am going to get you to your trip to Alaska”. Well she did and them some.
Our trip to Alaska for our 10th anniversary became “bucket-list” trip, and it was a trip we won’t soon forget. It was filled with so many wonderful experiences of wildlife, stunning vistas and awe-inspiring side-trips we couldn’t have asked for more. It felt like Alaska was giving Heidi a show to end-all-shows. I can’t tell you how many times our guides would tell us “You normally don’t see all this in one outing.”
After Alaska Heidi set another goal to go see the fall colors in the Eastern Sierras, something we had talked often of doing. So we did a little four-day family trip for my birthday weekend in October with most of the Weston clan. We visited pockets of beautiful aspens from Lee Vining down to Bishop and were again overwhelmed with God’s creation. On the trip Heidi’s strength and energy were clearly starting to fade but on the last day heading home she was awake enough, and the girls cooperated enough to get the picture below. Photographically speaking it’s not the greatest image but personally it meant so much to get this fleeting moment documented forever.
Not long after our trip Heidi was struggling more and more with her memory, speech and started to have seizures. We spent most of the rest of October in and out of the hospital as the doctors tried to determine what the issues were and how to help Heidi. As the hospital stays extended into November we were faced with the tough conversation of how much longer do we continue treating the cancer. After much talk and various consults Heidi was moved to hospice care and returned home where she was cared for by the PIH hospice nurses.
Unsure of how long Heidi would be in hospice we were faced with the impossible task of planning the holidays both with Heidi and if she passed. We did our best to keep all the festivities as ‘regular’ as possible for the girls while being mindful that they be were aware that mommy isn’t getting better. Which obviously led to conversations on what will happen to mommy. Those have by far been the toughest talks I have ever had to do.
This past weekend Heidi’s hospice nurse told us Heidi had started to ‘transition’. Meaning her body is starting to shutdown. It’s still hard to say when exactly she will pass since she is so young and her heart is so strong. Just writing this out seems so surreal even though we have known this day was coming at some point. A good friend of Heidi’s reminded me this is the time to celebrate all the things Heidi did in her life and ours, how she well outlived any prognosis the doctors gave her. Now she is going to a much better place in the presence of her Savior Jesus. A place far better than human comprehension. She truly was lived a blessed life and I know she would echo these words if she could.
For all those who have helped our little family with practical needs, medical bills, to loving on us and showering us with prayer I humbly thank you. God has truly blessed our family through your generosity. You are truly the hands, feet and voice of Jesus. May you be richly blessed for your ministry to us!
I know some of you will ask how can we continue to help, Heidi’s sister set up a giveforward.com page to help with financial needs, click below to check it out.
We will continue to keep the care calendar listed in the sidebar as well.
Once things do settle down I or another family member will update the blog. I may also do another ‘guest’ post once I have the emotional energy to write again.